OUR DEEPEST FEAR by Marianne Williamson from A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of A Course in Miracles.
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a Child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel Insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give othersI permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
Someone asked me yesterday:
“What is the message that drives you?”. I ask that question of people all the time in my work. I help people to find that answer in order to change the path and direction of their lives by finding the “lie” in the message that has given direction to their lives, if there is a lie.
I have often said that my message was….” You will never be good enough”. Which is a message/ driving force for many, many people. However, yesterday I responded….”No, no, the real Message was:
“Who do you think you are?!!” 1st AND “You will never be good enough” 2nd
Now logically I understand that my Mother was raised that way, with that message as well. Seeing her at 85, I can see how much of her life and dreams she gave up or diminished in service to that message. A message delivered over generations by well meaning, fearful people.
My father, would tell me “you can do anything you want, even things that boys can do that girls are not allowed to”. This was the 1950-60s. We were 4 sisters, I was the oldest and he offered me that gift of confidence and hope. However, he only embraced that message for himself in his dreams and he had plenty of dreams. He was unable to translate that into his living, breathing life and it showed in his actions in his life.
It was watching my mother and father fall so far from their potential that was confusing. They lived in their own fear of their darkness and in their own way tried to protect me from my “light”…. “Who do you think you are?!!!” said with rancor from their parents, a kind of “how dare you reach for the stars.”
The thought of that really makes me sad because so many of us have operated in this life exactly like someone was standing over us with that shaming, pointing finger….”Shame on you!”
Those incongruent messages have played tug of war with my Spirit for many years, and the events of my life continued to support the push/pull of the messages. And I know I am not alone in this place.
Victim/Victor, Brilliant/Impaired, plain/ordinary, beautiful/ugly spectacular/ embarassing, graceful/clumsy, mature/immature, good/bad….it’s enough to make a child a little confused and unsettled. What is the truth and who do I trust to tell me the truth?
Well, I hope that as we move along together on this journey that we can become together a community, a TRIBE of Healing.
A long time ago, someone said to me, “We are not bad people trying to get good, we are wounded people trying to Heal.” that has become my Mantra.
WHERE ARE YOU IN YOUR LIFE? WHERE DO YOU WANT TO BE? WHAT ARE YOUR DREAMS and WHAT ARE YOUR FEARS?
Marianne Williamson is a visionary, a healer and a talented teacher with a huge and deep depth of character. She has taken her history and turned into a life changing, world changing opportunity.
Nelson Mandela has used this brilliant and insightful “Deepest Fear” as part of his inauguration speech. Like-minded and kindred spirits intuitively grasp the truth of this inspiring paragraph.
What are the behaviors of yourself and the people around you that keep you in a place of fear, confusion, anger, uncertainty, flight, and sadness? What secrets are you or the people around you keeping because of fear, shame, remorse, guilt or a myriad of other reasons. When we bring those secrets to light they lose their power!
If you could talk about your pain to another trustworthy Person, could you heal and move on to your Light?
This is what I know, As Oprah says.
Everything, every event of our life, no matter how insignificant or momentous, affects the way we vision ourselves which affects the way we live our lives and what we believe about ourselves, from Conception to Death. Even more significant to this whole, is what is the history, the beliefs and the messages of the generations before us? And what do we offer the generations that follow us?